Dear Abby - Mr. Right's Only Wrong Is Hanging Out With His Exes

Mr. Right's Only Wrong Is Hanging Out With His Exes

Oct 02, 2013

 

DEAR ABBY: I have been dating Mr. Right for two years. "Phil" is the man I want to spend my life with. When we are together privately, everything is perfect.

The problem is, Phil hangs out with his old college buddies every few weeks or months, and it often involves his ex-girlfriends. They don't hang out alone. There is always at least one other person there. The situations usually include drinking, which worries me.

In my opinion, Phil should not be seeing his exes, even though his college friends are still buddies with them. Phil doesn't understand why I think this is so wrong. I am uncomfortable and think he should avoid these situations.

Am I overly jealous, or should I call it quits because he won't respect my feelings on the matter? -- HOME ALONE IN KOKOMO

 

DEAR HOME ALONE: I don't think you are overly jealous, but I do think you may be overly insecure. Has Phil given you any reason to think he has cheated on you? If not, you should trust that he is doing nothing more than hanging out occasionally with old friends.

You say he is encountering exes (plural) when he sees his male friends. If it was just one, you might have cause to worry. Remember, these women are exes for a reason. Unless you want to be another ex, you should lighten up because insecurity and possessiveness are unattractive traits.

 

Insecure 자신감 없는

Occasionally = Sometiems

Encount (특히 반갑지 않은 일에) 부딪히다, 맞닥들이다

Unless ~하지 않는한

Lighten up = cheer up

Trait (성격상) 특징

Cheat on somebody ~를 상대로 바람피우다

 

Comment

I totally understand her worry, but as Abby said, there is no way to solve it.

and I think if he wanted to cheat on you, he would already do that

you just should have confidence of yourself and just love him more than before